Tuesday, November 9, 2010
Sunday, August 1, 2010
Who is to blame???
We look at our culture and all its problems and wonder.....who's fault is it? Take a look at the oil spill.....there are plenty of theories there! BP is at fault, Obama is at fault.....the list goes on and on! However, the more I live my life, the more I realize that many problems in our society are caused by you and me.....and our own double standards!
Although I have no poll to prove this, I am willing to bet that if you asked Americans if there was to much promiscuity on TV, too much 'bad news' reporting in the media, to many immodestly dressed women on bilboards, and too many explicit songs on the radio, you would probably get a substantial number of people to agree with that. So why are things getting worse instead of better? Remember Janet Jackson's wardrobe malfuncton??? Imagine the havoc that would have caused if it happened just 30 years ago...... There are plenty of people out there for sure who would like to see less of this stuff on TV....so why is the media not listening?
The answer is this. The media represents the character of the American people: what we do when no one else is watching. Deep down inside of us, we secretly enjoy watching an affair develop, or listening to that explicit song with a great beat. We condemn it with our lips, but especially when no one else is watching, we watch it with hour eyes and listen to it with our ears. The media has ways of finding out how many people are watching this and that. They are able to find out deep down what we really like to watch....and so that is what we put on TV.
So many things in this country are like this. Tiger Woods for example. Are Americans truly shocked this goes on in this country??? Don't get me wrong....I think what he did was wrong but I read a poll the other day that stated 60 percent of men have had an affair outside their marriage and 40 percent of women have had an affair outside marriage. This poll seems to high to me....but I also thought I read that 33 percent of Americans are currently having an affair outside marriage! Are you sure this country is able to judge him like this without condemning ourselves at the same time????
So how do we solve the problems here. The answer is easy. Focus on yourself and your 'sin'. If you see something on TV you would condemn with your voice as being wrong....then flip the channel. The media then sees...hey people don't like watching this any more and something different gets put on! And there, the media problem is solved!
Finally, there is a time to judge I understand. If you are in what may seem like a bad neighborhood, I can understand double checking to make sure all your doors are locked on your car. However, if we take a look at ourselves more then we take a look at others....we will be more in line....families will be more in line....and the country will be more in line.....nothing....not even the laws of the United States can subsitute for the character of the individuals that make up this country.
Although I have no poll to prove this, I am willing to bet that if you asked Americans if there was to much promiscuity on TV, too much 'bad news' reporting in the media, to many immodestly dressed women on bilboards, and too many explicit songs on the radio, you would probably get a substantial number of people to agree with that. So why are things getting worse instead of better? Remember Janet Jackson's wardrobe malfuncton??? Imagine the havoc that would have caused if it happened just 30 years ago...... There are plenty of people out there for sure who would like to see less of this stuff on TV....so why is the media not listening?
The answer is this. The media represents the character of the American people: what we do when no one else is watching. Deep down inside of us, we secretly enjoy watching an affair develop, or listening to that explicit song with a great beat. We condemn it with our lips, but especially when no one else is watching, we watch it with hour eyes and listen to it with our ears. The media has ways of finding out how many people are watching this and that. They are able to find out deep down what we really like to watch....and so that is what we put on TV.
So many things in this country are like this. Tiger Woods for example. Are Americans truly shocked this goes on in this country??? Don't get me wrong....I think what he did was wrong but I read a poll the other day that stated 60 percent of men have had an affair outside their marriage and 40 percent of women have had an affair outside marriage. This poll seems to high to me....but I also thought I read that 33 percent of Americans are currently having an affair outside marriage! Are you sure this country is able to judge him like this without condemning ourselves at the same time????
So how do we solve the problems here. The answer is easy. Focus on yourself and your 'sin'. If you see something on TV you would condemn with your voice as being wrong....then flip the channel. The media then sees...hey people don't like watching this any more and something different gets put on! And there, the media problem is solved!
Finally, there is a time to judge I understand. If you are in what may seem like a bad neighborhood, I can understand double checking to make sure all your doors are locked on your car. However, if we take a look at ourselves more then we take a look at others....we will be more in line....families will be more in line....and the country will be more in line.....nothing....not even the laws of the United States can subsitute for the character of the individuals that make up this country.
Saturday, March 27, 2010
My Run-In With the Cops
Ok....so I was driving out of my apartment to do what any guy loves to do....eat!!!!!
As I drive out, I see blinking lights pull up behind me!!! Since I am on a two lane highway with no place to pull over....I turn off the highway into a subdivision area and think about the best spot to pull over...then I hear a siren and think "OK STOP NOW!"
The Cop walks up to me with a flashlight, looks in my car, and I roll down my window. He tells me I have a headlight out while I had him my driver's license and registration. He asks why I did not pull over immediately? I told him that I didn't think it was safe to stop in the middle of that street like that. Now, maybe most of you know not to do that...but in NC where I used to live, the Cops are a little more laid back....they really don't care if you pull over somewhere safer.... on a side note, I constantly learn things here not to do that would not have really been a huge deal down South....
So after I sit in my car...the next stupid thing I did was think...ya know...let me check the headlight on my car that is out. So as I get out of my car, the cop raises his voice and says, "Get back in the car!" So I get back in my car.
Eventually, he walks back to my car, shining his light in there behind my driver's side window (probably looking for drugs or something!), and then walks up to my window. He hands me my driver's license and registration and asks about my hands shaking and why I was nervous. I told him, "I guess just being pulled over by the cops".
He then handed me a note telling me I have 10 business days to get my headlight fixed....and I was able to go!
I bet that Cop thought I was guilty of something...after I made my small get away by not pulling over immediately, fleeing the scene by stepping out of my car, and the impending guilt associated with my shaking hands...but alas I am home safely.....
As I drive out, I see blinking lights pull up behind me!!! Since I am on a two lane highway with no place to pull over....I turn off the highway into a subdivision area and think about the best spot to pull over...then I hear a siren and think "OK STOP NOW!"
The Cop walks up to me with a flashlight, looks in my car, and I roll down my window. He tells me I have a headlight out while I had him my driver's license and registration. He asks why I did not pull over immediately? I told him that I didn't think it was safe to stop in the middle of that street like that. Now, maybe most of you know not to do that...but in NC where I used to live, the Cops are a little more laid back....they really don't care if you pull over somewhere safer.... on a side note, I constantly learn things here not to do that would not have really been a huge deal down South....
So after I sit in my car...the next stupid thing I did was think...ya know...let me check the headlight on my car that is out. So as I get out of my car, the cop raises his voice and says, "Get back in the car!" So I get back in my car.
Eventually, he walks back to my car, shining his light in there behind my driver's side window (probably looking for drugs or something!), and then walks up to my window. He hands me my driver's license and registration and asks about my hands shaking and why I was nervous. I told him, "I guess just being pulled over by the cops".
He then handed me a note telling me I have 10 business days to get my headlight fixed....and I was able to go!
I bet that Cop thought I was guilty of something...after I made my small get away by not pulling over immediately, fleeing the scene by stepping out of my car, and the impending guilt associated with my shaking hands...but alas I am home safely.....
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
Monday, January 18, 2010
Monday, January 4, 2010
Tips for guys and dating....etc
1: Don't treat girls differently by the way they look...if there is a girl you are really interested in....fine....otherwise...try and treat girls equally.
2: when God commanded wives submit to your husbands...he also commanded husbands to love your wives with compassion and understanding.
3: Connecting with women emotionally and not just physically brings so much more to the relationship for you and not just your girlfriend/wife....do not neglect this. Some guys never discover this...and it is sad.
4: Your problems with lust will not cease once you get married....so discipline here is important before and after marriage....start training yourself now.
5: When your wife talks to you...she can solve her own problems and she usually does not need your help....she just wants to share her experiences...show her that you are listening....if she needs help...she will ask you in general.
6. If THE MATURE women sees that you are good father material....that is a big plus for you.
7. Admit when you are wrong...humility can impress a lot. And just as a hint, this will eventually work to your advantage in the work place....don't make excuses.
8. Do the routine boring cleaning of the house with her, etc....it shows her you care...it is a good time for the two of you to talk....and I always find a good conversation passes the horrible cleaning tasks away quickly...and helping her in this way makes her excited to want to do things with you....which is a good thing.
9. Make things clear....like if you start spending time with her...eventually address what your true intentions are...dating or friendship? Ask to do devotions one night with your kids...ask if she will pray with you. These remove confusion and show that you can lead and care about spiritual growth in her and the kids...
Just keep her involved in your decision making...that is the difference in leading well and being a bully.
2: when God commanded wives submit to your husbands...he also commanded husbands to love your wives with compassion and understanding.
3: Connecting with women emotionally and not just physically brings so much more to the relationship for you and not just your girlfriend/wife....do not neglect this. Some guys never discover this...and it is sad.
4: Your problems with lust will not cease once you get married....so discipline here is important before and after marriage....start training yourself now.
5: When your wife talks to you...she can solve her own problems and she usually does not need your help....she just wants to share her experiences...show her that you are listening....if she needs help...she will ask you in general.
6. If THE MATURE women sees that you are good father material....that is a big plus for you.
7. Admit when you are wrong...humility can impress a lot. And just as a hint, this will eventually work to your advantage in the work place....don't make excuses.
8. Do the routine boring cleaning of the house with her, etc....it shows her you care...it is a good time for the two of you to talk....and I always find a good conversation passes the horrible cleaning tasks away quickly...and helping her in this way makes her excited to want to do things with you....which is a good thing.
9. Make things clear....like if you start spending time with her...eventually address what your true intentions are...dating or friendship? Ask to do devotions one night with your kids...ask if she will pray with you. These remove confusion and show that you can lead and care about spiritual growth in her and the kids...
Just keep her involved in your decision making...that is the difference in leading well and being a bully.
Why men do not go to church.....
"I could go on, but additional data would only reveal the same truth yet from more directions. There is no hiding the fact that men are not as spiritually engaged as women; that they are turned off by church and its related activities
What is facinating about men and church in recent years is that while their church attendance has waned, their involvement in small groups has actually increased. It's as if men have left church and found other ways to seek out Jesus. Author, artist, and documentarian David Murrow has reported a finding of Gorge Barna that 'between 1994 and 2004, men's church attendance was flat, but men's participation in in small spiritual groups doubled! During that decade about nine million additional men joined a small group that meets during the week for the purpose of prayer, Bible Study, or spiritual fellowship, apart from Sunday school or other church classes.' (italics his) 3
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What do men find in a faternity house in college or a faternity-like environment after college that they do not find in church? The same thing that C. S. Lewis, J. R. R. Tolkien, and their colleagues, The Inklings, found when they met together at Eagle and Child pub in Oxford, England, for a pipe and a pint: collegiality, stimulation, acceptance, camaraderie, and good humor. Fortunately, many churches have discovered that men respond to settings like these far more then the Sunday morning hour.
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The 'endless repetitions' of warm and fuzzy choruses so popular in churches today is something that is not going to draw men to the church. For the most part, men don't do 'warm and fuzzy' yet that is what characterizes most church services" 1
1 Stephen Aterburn, The Secrets Men Keep (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2006), 111-114.
3 David Murrow, Why Men Hate Going to Church (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2005), 228.
What is facinating about men and church in recent years is that while their church attendance has waned, their involvement in small groups has actually increased. It's as if men have left church and found other ways to seek out Jesus. Author, artist, and documentarian David Murrow has reported a finding of Gorge Barna that 'between 1994 and 2004, men's church attendance was flat, but men's participation in in small spiritual groups doubled! During that decade about nine million additional men joined a small group that meets during the week for the purpose of prayer, Bible Study, or spiritual fellowship, apart from Sunday school or other church classes.' (italics his) 3
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What do men find in a faternity house in college or a faternity-like environment after college that they do not find in church? The same thing that C. S. Lewis, J. R. R. Tolkien, and their colleagues, The Inklings, found when they met together at Eagle and Child pub in Oxford, England, for a pipe and a pint: collegiality, stimulation, acceptance, camaraderie, and good humor. Fortunately, many churches have discovered that men respond to settings like these far more then the Sunday morning hour.
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The 'endless repetitions' of warm and fuzzy choruses so popular in churches today is something that is not going to draw men to the church. For the most part, men don't do 'warm and fuzzy' yet that is what characterizes most church services" 1
1 Stephen Aterburn, The Secrets Men Keep (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2006), 111-114.
3 David Murrow, Why Men Hate Going to Church (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2005), 228.
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