Tips for girls in dating/relationships/marriage...etc
1: A former stripper/prostitute interviewed said that about 90 percent of married guys who solicited their services did not ask for sexual favors...but just wanted her to take his shoes of...and maybe talk to... The lesson learned from this survey is that wives need to pay attention to their husbands....they get so busy worrying about their kids and other people that they forget their husbands....
2: Is your husband lazy or maybe you think he can work harder? Our society runs more like this: do something for me and I will respect you. Your husband works kind of the opposite. The more you appreciate the good things he does do...the more motivated he will be to work harder for you.
3: Interested in a guy? Watch how he treats others because that is a good idea as to how he will treat you! What is the primary lesson here? Don't date a jerk....it is not worth it. His relationship with his family is a good indicator as well.
4: Learn to think with your mind some and not with your emotions. I have seen girls write off guys simply by some wierd look he gave her, how he talks, he does not look like Bradd Pitt, etc. This also influnences a girl to keep judging a guy by his past and not see the man he is becomming....
5: Thow out the list....or keep it very small...picky women will remain single for the rest of their lives. Avoid judging him too harshly about his past....the man you want is one who learns from his mistakes...repeat that after me!
Finally:
David was a murder and adulturer (and yet a man after God's own heart I might add!!!)
Gideon was a coward
Elijah was a cry baby
Peter denied Jesus and had to be publically rebuked for spreading false doctrine
Samsom had a problem with women
Paul killed Christians and wrote the noteworthy "thorn in the side" portion of scripture!!!
All these were used greatly by God....seriously flawed men....and you will be marrying one!
6: Gossiping implies a lack of trust. If you talk about other people's dirty laundry, how do I know you will
not talk about mine?
Furthermore, if you talk to me only when you find out I may have a new girlfriend; that can indirectly imply that you are just looking for more gossip information. So how do we get past this? Ask me how I am doing...weather or not I have new girlfriend......that shows you care in general.
7: And here we come to trust again....I actually think trust is a bigger deal to men then it could be to women. Share something with even a pastor with good intentions that he confided to you and it will be a long time before he confides in you again....if ever.
8: If a man talks to you about a mistake he has made and not justifying himself; chances are, he already feels pretty bad about it....so there is no need to say, "That was pretty stupid; I guess you shouldn't have done that".
9: Manipulation of any kind is a deal breaker.
10: When we talk to you....talk back. Don't be too insecure about 'what do other people think about me talking to this guy?' Let the friendship develop because the best relationships often develop from friendship.
Don't worry if you are shy....we can usually pick up on that and it is ok.
11: Men think like this a lot. "If I apply this, what kind of results do I see"???? Remember this when you give him advice or tell him things. Here are a couple examples to clarify.
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A girl tells a guy that she showed his picture to a bunch of girls and they all thought he was hot. He meets one of these girls and she completly ignores him. (A girl would at least want to talk to a guy she thought was hot right? :) ) (again, result did not validate the premise)
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A girl says, "Any girl would be happy to have you". Then he sees all the girls including the girl that told him that.....talking to other guys....no girl is talking to him.
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If girls make statements like this and yet he gets rejected time and time again, he will be very tempted to think that girls are liars or he will stop asking them for advice and go elsewhere.
Your actions say what you really want....not your words.
12: A guy who volunteers his time to help others is a good bet. A guy who takes out of his free time in order to care about others will likely care about you as well.
13: We know you are moody....but if you have a bad additude most of the time....that is a deal breaker. Your significant other is not responsible for your happiness.
14: For Christmas, buy him what he wants instead of what you think he needs!
15: It is a man's responsibility to keep himself away from pornography, affairs, etc; however, your help in this area will make his fight with these things much easier. There are many sad stories of pasters and other well to do Christians who have lost their battle against pornography because their wives always said no to the three letter word and never thought it was an important part of their marriage relationship.
That being said, if you appreciate and encourage him....that will help keep his eyes from wondering in the workplace to a girl who admires his accomplishments and appreciates him for who he is.
16: A lot of guys perfer girls who show their natural beauty and do not wear a lot of makeup.....I see girls cover up their freckles with a lot of makeup and then see them again when they are, say, swimming in a pool...and therfore not wearing it. They look a lot better in the pool....and that is not because they are wearing a swimming suit!
17: The number one complaint I hear from married men is that their wives don't listen to them.
18: Do not use romance novels to spell out to you how the man of your dreams will enter your life. I once listened to a humorous dialog on Stephen Arterburn's radio show that went something like this:
Woman: Well, I have never dated because God has never brought the right man in my life.
Arterburn: Well what do you think of the mail man....do you think he his cute?
Woman: Well....yeah!
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
Monday, January 18, 2010
Monday, January 4, 2010
Tips for guys and dating....etc
1: Don't treat girls differently by the way they look...if there is a girl you are really interested in....fine....otherwise...try and treat girls equally.
2: when God commanded wives submit to your husbands...he also commanded husbands to love your wives with compassion and understanding.
3: Connecting with women emotionally and not just physically brings so much more to the relationship for you and not just your girlfriend/wife....do not neglect this. Some guys never discover this...and it is sad.
4: Your problems with lust will not cease once you get married....so discipline here is important before and after marriage....start training yourself now.
5: When your wife talks to you...she can solve her own problems and she usually does not need your help....she just wants to share her experiences...show her that you are listening....if she needs help...she will ask you in general.
6. If THE MATURE women sees that you are good father material....that is a big plus for you.
7. Admit when you are wrong...humility can impress a lot. And just as a hint, this will eventually work to your advantage in the work place....don't make excuses.
8. Do the routine boring cleaning of the house with her, etc....it shows her you care...it is a good time for the two of you to talk....and I always find a good conversation passes the horrible cleaning tasks away quickly...and helping her in this way makes her excited to want to do things with you....which is a good thing.
9. Make things clear....like if you start spending time with her...eventually address what your true intentions are...dating or friendship? Ask to do devotions one night with your kids...ask if she will pray with you. These remove confusion and show that you can lead and care about spiritual growth in her and the kids...
Just keep her involved in your decision making...that is the difference in leading well and being a bully.
2: when God commanded wives submit to your husbands...he also commanded husbands to love your wives with compassion and understanding.
3: Connecting with women emotionally and not just physically brings so much more to the relationship for you and not just your girlfriend/wife....do not neglect this. Some guys never discover this...and it is sad.
4: Your problems with lust will not cease once you get married....so discipline here is important before and after marriage....start training yourself now.
5: When your wife talks to you...she can solve her own problems and she usually does not need your help....she just wants to share her experiences...show her that you are listening....if she needs help...she will ask you in general.
6. If THE MATURE women sees that you are good father material....that is a big plus for you.
7. Admit when you are wrong...humility can impress a lot. And just as a hint, this will eventually work to your advantage in the work place....don't make excuses.
8. Do the routine boring cleaning of the house with her, etc....it shows her you care...it is a good time for the two of you to talk....and I always find a good conversation passes the horrible cleaning tasks away quickly...and helping her in this way makes her excited to want to do things with you....which is a good thing.
9. Make things clear....like if you start spending time with her...eventually address what your true intentions are...dating or friendship? Ask to do devotions one night with your kids...ask if she will pray with you. These remove confusion and show that you can lead and care about spiritual growth in her and the kids...
Just keep her involved in your decision making...that is the difference in leading well and being a bully.
Why men do not go to church.....
"I could go on, but additional data would only reveal the same truth yet from more directions. There is no hiding the fact that men are not as spiritually engaged as women; that they are turned off by church and its related activities
What is facinating about men and church in recent years is that while their church attendance has waned, their involvement in small groups has actually increased. It's as if men have left church and found other ways to seek out Jesus. Author, artist, and documentarian David Murrow has reported a finding of Gorge Barna that 'between 1994 and 2004, men's church attendance was flat, but men's participation in in small spiritual groups doubled! During that decade about nine million additional men joined a small group that meets during the week for the purpose of prayer, Bible Study, or spiritual fellowship, apart from Sunday school or other church classes.' (italics his) 3
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What do men find in a faternity house in college or a faternity-like environment after college that they do not find in church? The same thing that C. S. Lewis, J. R. R. Tolkien, and their colleagues, The Inklings, found when they met together at Eagle and Child pub in Oxford, England, for a pipe and a pint: collegiality, stimulation, acceptance, camaraderie, and good humor. Fortunately, many churches have discovered that men respond to settings like these far more then the Sunday morning hour.
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The 'endless repetitions' of warm and fuzzy choruses so popular in churches today is something that is not going to draw men to the church. For the most part, men don't do 'warm and fuzzy' yet that is what characterizes most church services" 1
1 Stephen Aterburn, The Secrets Men Keep (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2006), 111-114.
3 David Murrow, Why Men Hate Going to Church (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2005), 228.
What is facinating about men and church in recent years is that while their church attendance has waned, their involvement in small groups has actually increased. It's as if men have left church and found other ways to seek out Jesus. Author, artist, and documentarian David Murrow has reported a finding of Gorge Barna that 'between 1994 and 2004, men's church attendance was flat, but men's participation in in small spiritual groups doubled! During that decade about nine million additional men joined a small group that meets during the week for the purpose of prayer, Bible Study, or spiritual fellowship, apart from Sunday school or other church classes.' (italics his) 3
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What do men find in a faternity house in college or a faternity-like environment after college that they do not find in church? The same thing that C. S. Lewis, J. R. R. Tolkien, and their colleagues, The Inklings, found when they met together at Eagle and Child pub in Oxford, England, for a pipe and a pint: collegiality, stimulation, acceptance, camaraderie, and good humor. Fortunately, many churches have discovered that men respond to settings like these far more then the Sunday morning hour.
.........
The 'endless repetitions' of warm and fuzzy choruses so popular in churches today is something that is not going to draw men to the church. For the most part, men don't do 'warm and fuzzy' yet that is what characterizes most church services" 1
1 Stephen Aterburn, The Secrets Men Keep (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2006), 111-114.
3 David Murrow, Why Men Hate Going to Church (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2005), 228.
Friday, November 20, 2009
The Blind Side
Just got back from seeing a movie called 'The Blind Side' and I must say it is really really good....and it really gets at the heart of the problem as to why there are so many criminals in the world today, why there are so many people on welfare, etc. I have heard many people discuss this issue indirectly by saying,"Oh, well I have a good job because I made good decisions when I was younger; they decided to make bad decisions and they are paying the consequences for it". While this is ultimately true, most people don't realize there are so many factors that influence the decisions people ultimately make.
The way Michael dealt with his hardships was by keeping it all up inside in a soft and tender way. He was fourtuate. A lot of boys will lash out, get in fights, and perhaps even kill someone in an effort to release their anger on a world that may have given him a home without a father (most men in prison grew up in homes without a functioning father) or whatever the situation may be. Now, imagine this young man goes to prison where he may be raped or abused even more. His anger grows and he becomes even more violent then he was before. That is why a lot of people are even worse off after they get out of prison. So what helped Michael beat these odds? The answer: a family that cut through all the stereotypes loved him unconditionally.
In so many ways we are not sending that message....the message of unconditional love. Lets take the prison system for example. The reason why prison rape exists is because we US citizens don't really care enough about this problem to fix it....after all...it is not my problem....I am not in prison. Therefore, we worry about things like getting a tax cut or finding a way to pay for social security. When I volunteered for the homeless shelter, I pretty much got accepted on the spot without a background check and without any referenes because there is a shortage of people who care about the homeless....they can't be picky about who they pick to volunteer because no one volunteers. No one really cares.
So the next time you hear about some gang shooting on TV, don't be so quick to point the finger at the killer. We are all murders because most of us have hated which is the equivelent of murder by the Bible's standard. In addition, Jesus stayed on that cross to die for your sins...because of what YOU did. So be careful at how you point fingers...they have an ironic way of pointing back.
The way Michael dealt with his hardships was by keeping it all up inside in a soft and tender way. He was fourtuate. A lot of boys will lash out, get in fights, and perhaps even kill someone in an effort to release their anger on a world that may have given him a home without a father (most men in prison grew up in homes without a functioning father) or whatever the situation may be. Now, imagine this young man goes to prison where he may be raped or abused even more. His anger grows and he becomes even more violent then he was before. That is why a lot of people are even worse off after they get out of prison. So what helped Michael beat these odds? The answer: a family that cut through all the stereotypes loved him unconditionally.
In so many ways we are not sending that message....the message of unconditional love. Lets take the prison system for example. The reason why prison rape exists is because we US citizens don't really care enough about this problem to fix it....after all...it is not my problem....I am not in prison. Therefore, we worry about things like getting a tax cut or finding a way to pay for social security. When I volunteered for the homeless shelter, I pretty much got accepted on the spot without a background check and without any referenes because there is a shortage of people who care about the homeless....they can't be picky about who they pick to volunteer because no one volunteers. No one really cares.
So the next time you hear about some gang shooting on TV, don't be so quick to point the finger at the killer. We are all murders because most of us have hated which is the equivelent of murder by the Bible's standard. In addition, Jesus stayed on that cross to die for your sins...because of what YOU did. So be careful at how you point fingers...they have an ironic way of pointing back.
Thursday, September 24, 2009
OBAMA SONG
http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2009/09/24/lyrics-songs-president-obama/
Song 1:
Mm, mmm, mm!
Barack Hussein Obama
He said that all must lend a hand
To make this country strong again
Mmm, mmm, mm!
Barack Hussein Obama
He said we must be fair today
Equal work means equal pay
Mmm, mmm, mm!
Barack Hussein Obama
He said that we must take a stand
To make sure everyone gets a chance
Mmm, mmm, mm!
Barack Hussein Obama
He said red, yellow, black or white
All are equal in his sight
Mmm, mmm, mm!
Barack Hussein Obama
Yes!
Mmm, mmm, mm
Barack Hussein Obama
Song 2:
Hello, Mr. President we honor you today!
For all your great accomplishments, we all doth say "hooray!"
Hooray, Mr. President! You're number one!
The first black American to lead this great nation!
Hooray, Mr. President we honor your great plans
To make this country's economy number one again!
Hooray Mr. President, we're really proud of you!
And we stand for all Americans under the great Red, White, and Blue!
So continue ---- Mr. President we know you'll do the trick
So here's a hearty hip-hooray ----
Hip, hip hooray!
Hip, hip hooray!
Hip, hip hooray!
http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2009/09/24/elementary-school-students-reportedly-taught-songs-praising-president-obama/?loomia_ow=t0:s0:a16:g2:r1:c0.262517:b27934924:z0
The superintendent of a New Jersey school where students were videotaped being taught to sing the praises of President Obama issued a statement Thursday saying the taping was unauthorized, but failed to address whether the the lesson -- taught durnig Black History Month -- was approved.
A YouTube video shows nearly 20 young children being led in a song overflowing with campaign slogans and praise for "Barack Hussein Obama," repeatedly chanting the president's name and celebrating his accomplishments, including his "great plans" to "make this country's economy No. 1 again."
The video has set off families in Burlington, N.J., who say that politics shouldn't be forced on young students.
"This video is disturbing," said a grandparent named Sandy, who spoke on the condition that her last name not be noted. "I'm disturbed that someone can give their political opinions in school like this. I'm dead-set against it.
"We don't teach politics in pre-school -- or kindergarten or first grade," said Sandy, who told FOXNews.com she has two grandchildren attending B. Bernice Young Elementary School, where the video was filmed. "This has no place in the classroom. It may have been the opinion of one or two, and someone should pay the consequences for it."
School officials said Thursday the students were "singing a song about President Obama" in February "to honor the contributions of African Americans to our country."
"The recording and distribution of the class activity were unauthorized," wrote Christopher M. Manno, superintendent of Burlington Township School District, in a statement to parents.
One song that the children were taught quotes directly from the spiritual "Jesus Loves the Little Children," though Jesus' name is replaced with Obama's: "He said red, yellow, black or white/All are equal in his sight. Barack Hussein Obama."
Song 1:
Mm, mmm, mm!
Barack Hussein Obama
He said that all must lend a hand
To make this country strong again
Mmm, mmm, mm!
Barack Hussein Obama
He said we must be fair today
Equal work means equal pay
Mmm, mmm, mm!
Barack Hussein Obama
He said that we must take a stand
To make sure everyone gets a chance
Mmm, mmm, mm!
Barack Hussein Obama
He said red, yellow, black or white
All are equal in his sight
Mmm, mmm, mm!
Barack Hussein Obama
Yes!
Mmm, mmm, mm
Barack Hussein Obama
Song 2:
Hello, Mr. President we honor you today!
For all your great accomplishments, we all doth say "hooray!"
Hooray, Mr. President! You're number one!
The first black American to lead this great nation!
Hooray, Mr. President we honor your great plans
To make this country's economy number one again!
Hooray Mr. President, we're really proud of you!
And we stand for all Americans under the great Red, White, and Blue!
So continue ---- Mr. President we know you'll do the trick
So here's a hearty hip-hooray ----
Hip, hip hooray!
Hip, hip hooray!
Hip, hip hooray!
http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2009/09/24/elementary-school-students-reportedly-taught-songs-praising-president-obama/?loomia_ow=t0:s0:a16:g2:r1:c0.262517:b27934924:z0
The superintendent of a New Jersey school where students were videotaped being taught to sing the praises of President Obama issued a statement Thursday saying the taping was unauthorized, but failed to address whether the the lesson -- taught durnig Black History Month -- was approved.
A YouTube video shows nearly 20 young children being led in a song overflowing with campaign slogans and praise for "Barack Hussein Obama," repeatedly chanting the president's name and celebrating his accomplishments, including his "great plans" to "make this country's economy No. 1 again."
The video has set off families in Burlington, N.J., who say that politics shouldn't be forced on young students.
"This video is disturbing," said a grandparent named Sandy, who spoke on the condition that her last name not be noted. "I'm disturbed that someone can give their political opinions in school like this. I'm dead-set against it.
"We don't teach politics in pre-school -- or kindergarten or first grade," said Sandy, who told FOXNews.com she has two grandchildren attending B. Bernice Young Elementary School, where the video was filmed. "This has no place in the classroom. It may have been the opinion of one or two, and someone should pay the consequences for it."
School officials said Thursday the students were "singing a song about President Obama" in February "to honor the contributions of African Americans to our country."
"The recording and distribution of the class activity were unauthorized," wrote Christopher M. Manno, superintendent of Burlington Township School District, in a statement to parents.
One song that the children were taught quotes directly from the spiritual "Jesus Loves the Little Children," though Jesus' name is replaced with Obama's: "He said red, yellow, black or white/All are equal in his sight. Barack Hussein Obama."
Saturday, September 12, 2009
Psalm 62
For the director of music. For Jeduthun. A psalm of David.
1 My soul finds rest in God alone;
my salvation comes from him.
2 He alone is my rock and my salvation;
he is my fortress, I will never be shaken.
3 How long will you assault a man?
Would all of you throw him down—
this leaning wall, this tottering fence?
4 They fully intend to topple him
from his lofty place;
they take delight in lies.
With their mouths they bless,
but in their hearts they curse.
Selah
5 Find rest, O my soul, in God alone;
my hope comes from him.
6 He alone is my rock and my salvation;
he is my fortress, I will not be shaken.
7 My salvation and my honor depend on God [a] ;
he is my mighty rock, my refuge.
8 Trust in him at all times, O people;
pour out your hearts to him,
for God is our refuge.
Selah
9 Lowborn men are but a breath,
the highborn are but a lie;
if weighed on a balance, they are nothing;
together they are only a breath.
10 Do not trust in extortion
or take pride in stolen goods;
though your riches increase,
do not set your heart on them.
11 One thing God has spoken,
two things have I heard:
that you, O God, are strong,
12 and that you, O Lord, are loving.
Surely you will reward each person
according to what he has done.
1 My soul finds rest in God alone;
my salvation comes from him.
2 He alone is my rock and my salvation;
he is my fortress, I will never be shaken.
3 How long will you assault a man?
Would all of you throw him down—
this leaning wall, this tottering fence?
4 They fully intend to topple him
from his lofty place;
they take delight in lies.
With their mouths they bless,
but in their hearts they curse.
Selah
5 Find rest, O my soul, in God alone;
my hope comes from him.
6 He alone is my rock and my salvation;
he is my fortress, I will not be shaken.
7 My salvation and my honor depend on God [a] ;
he is my mighty rock, my refuge.
8 Trust in him at all times, O people;
pour out your hearts to him,
for God is our refuge.
Selah
9 Lowborn men are but a breath,
the highborn are but a lie;
if weighed on a balance, they are nothing;
together they are only a breath.
10 Do not trust in extortion
or take pride in stolen goods;
though your riches increase,
do not set your heart on them.
11 One thing God has spoken,
two things have I heard:
that you, O God, are strong,
12 and that you, O Lord, are loving.
Surely you will reward each person
according to what he has done.
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