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Monday, January 4, 2010

Tips for guys and dating....etc

1: Don't treat girls differently by the way they look...if there is a girl you are really interested in....fine....otherwise...try and treat girls equally.

2: when God commanded wives submit to your husbands...he also commanded husbands to love your wives with compassion and understanding.

3: Connecting with women emotionally and not just physically brings so much more to the relationship for you and not just your girlfriend/wife....do not neglect this. Some guys never discover this...and it is sad.

4: Your problems with lust will not cease once you get married....so discipline here is important before and after marriage....start training yourself now.

5: When your wife talks to you...she can solve her own problems and she usually does not need your help....she just wants to share her experiences...show her that you are listening....if she needs help...she will ask you in general.

6. If THE MATURE women sees that you are good father material....that is a big plus for you.

7. Admit when you are wrong...humility can impress a lot. And just as a hint, this will eventually work to your advantage in the work place....don't make excuses.

8. Do the routine boring cleaning of the house with her, etc....it shows her you care...it is a good time for the two of you to talk....and I always find a good conversation passes the horrible cleaning tasks away quickly...and helping her in this way makes her excited to want to do things with you....which is a good thing.

9. Make things clear....like if you start spending time with her...eventually address what your true intentions are...dating or friendship? Ask to do devotions one night with your kids...ask if she will pray with you. These remove confusion and show that you can lead and care about spiritual growth in her and the kids...

Just keep her involved in your decision making...that is the difference in leading well and being a bully.

Why men do not go to church.....

"I could go on, but additional data would only reveal the same truth yet from more directions. There is no hiding the fact that men are not as spiritually engaged as women; that they are turned off by church and its related activities

What is facinating about men and church in recent years is that while their church attendance has waned, their involvement in small groups has actually increased. It's as if men have left church and found other ways to seek out Jesus. Author, artist, and documentarian David Murrow has reported a finding of Gorge Barna that 'between 1994 and 2004, men's church attendance was flat, but men's participation in in small spiritual groups doubled! During that decade about nine million additional men joined a small group that meets during the week for the purpose of prayer, Bible Study, or spiritual fellowship, apart from Sunday school or other church classes.' (italics his) 3


What do men find in a faternity house in college or a faternity-like environment after college that they do not find in church? The same thing that C. S. Lewis, J. R. R. Tolkien, and their colleagues, The Inklings, found when they met together at Eagle and Child pub in Oxford, England, for a pipe and a pint: collegiality, stimulation, acceptance, camaraderie, and good humor. Fortunately, many churches have discovered that men respond to settings like these far more then the Sunday morning hour.


The 'endless repetitions' of warm and fuzzy choruses so popular in churches today is something that is not going to draw men to the church. For the most part, men don't do 'warm and fuzzy' yet that is what characterizes most church services" 1

1 Stephen Aterburn, The Secrets Men Keep (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2006), 111-114.

3 David Murrow, Why Men Hate Going to Church (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2005), 228.